Being Present, Part 2: Am I keeping my plate full on purpose, or because I don’t know any other way?

Continued thoughts from December’s blog post…

What would happen if I decided today to clear my plate of everything? Would the world stop? Absolutely not, some things would get done and some things would not. That is not the end of the world! Do I really want to be only sleeping 3-4 hours a night, just to keep productive? I have always done it; do I know any other way?

I do not know all the answers but I do know where my personal weaknesses are. I am always the first to volunteer or not be able to wait long enough to allow others to raise their hand and offer.  The old saying, “If you want something done-ask someone who is busy,” has always worked against me. Now I am starting to reflect on these things a bit and realize maybe this has always been my choice. Maybe I am not a victim or pawn, but a willing participant to the business of life.

Now, here comes the challenge. If these new thoughts and insights are true, and believe it is…what do I DO about it? How do I start making different decisions daily based on this information?

All of this brings us to the real question…do I want to be present in this life or not? I believe, for myself, the answer is yes…but it is hard to break a long ingrained habit and start a new healthier one, it takes small steps, a plan, a support system and constant daily positive feedback and small rewards for the wins we experience along the way.

As a PT I lead my patients to think of a plan to help with their pain every day, the plan comes in the documentation of their visit and consists of:

  1. Define the problem
  2. Set realistic short term and long term goals that we both agree on
  3. Engage the individual in each step of the process
  4. Provide a positive feedback system and not reinforce negative actions
  5. Celebrate smalls wins along the way

Thinking of the issue at hand, can I use the same format to help myself?

I will continue to expand on this topic in a later blog, but my hope is that those reading this can use my thoughts to begin to plan realistically to achieve their goals. Whether your goals are similar to mine, being more present in life for myself, my wife, my kids and my company…or different than mine, this planning process can help all of us. No matter what you wish to do differently this year, be realistic and make a plan. Hopefully we can all achieve the things we desire this year.

Feel free to comment on this post and I can try to provide any insight I may have. I may not get back to all comments but I will try my best!

As always, thank you for reading!

Ed Ramsey

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